People with childhood trauma who come for help usually turn out to have been working very, very hard on their healing. It’s entered our conventional language: “Have you been doing the work?” I’ve noticed lately that it is sometimes the new way blame: “They haven’t been doing their work!” A client will sometimes say “I already did all my work on dad!”
Work.
I understand. Healing involves effort. And I honor anyone who through hard work has accomplished amazing things (Simone Biles!). But it’s my impression that something is seriously out of balance here. A combination of the scars of trauma — it’s all up to me! — and the dysfunction of our culture which thinks that everything worthwhile must have involves lots of work.
Constellations challenges these assertions. Over and over, what we experience in constellations, is if we can find the excluded, lost, forgotten or repressed parts of our family history, and properly honor it so that everything — even the most mournful history — has it’s proper place, the system (and the client) simply relax, let go. The stress and holding that has manifested in the client’s daily difficulties release, and we go forward changed, without all that “work”!
Does this interest you? This October I host another cohort of learners in my annual Online Constellation Training. If you are interested, I invite you to check out the website now, find out the details, and contact me as soon as possible for a conversation to see if this is a fit.
If you’ve been thinking about training in constellations work, now is the time! And if you’ve ever experienced the paradoxical power of including, and the release it brings, please share on my blog below.
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