I received a gift today, as I wandered the wilds of the internet. 🙂 It’s about those deep-seated griefs and losses that have a hold of our heart, and where relief for them might lie. The gift shows up in an interview between Anderson Cooper — who has been exploring the topic of grief with […]

Water is life. This is especially understood in the desert, where generations of ancestral knowledge insure the ability to discover, conserve, share, and respect the flow of water. It represents birth, re-birth, sustenance, abundance, and even death (as we have seen in recent USA hurricanes). Connecting to our ancestors and lineages means connecting with all […]

Why pursue constellation training, or consider having a constellation? One reason: the possibility of letting go of the problem of our “crazy families.” Many of us seek a solution in separation. Often this is necessary and life-saving. And, after a while, even if we are completely separate from our families, we often find the patterns […]

If you’ve been around constellation work long enough, you’ve heard how important it is to “take your mother and your father.” This can sound understandably worrisome to many of us with parents who weren’t safe for us. So, what does it really mean? The accidents of fate that surround our birth are innumerable. The fact […]

People with childhood trauma who come for help usually turn out to have been working very, very hard on their healing. It’s entered our conventional language: “Have you been doing the work?” I’ve noticed lately that it is sometimes the new way blame: “They haven’t been doing their work!” A client will sometimes say “I […]

Healing — like learning to walk or to play an instrument– is a developmental process. It is rarely all-at-once. And it’s also rarely linear, with ups and downs that can make it hard to believe we’re getting anywhere at all. No single step in healing is the final one. This can be a bit discouraging! […]

  Like most people, I try to keep my life interesting by trying new things from time to time. Last fall, I tried ballet (!). This weekend, I am going to try kayaking on the Rio Grande for the first time. On a recent road trip to the southwest corner of New Mexico, I took […]